When coming out of an abusive relationship, so many ask ‘how will I ever trust someone again’. I tell them, I hope you won’t; I hope instead, you’ll learn to trust yourself! Trusting yourself, learning how to read people, and know what they are about is the only way to keep yourself safe in a world full of people who are out to use and abuse you. How do you learn to trust yourself? You have to develop a trustworthy creep-o-meter!

In a recent video, i talked about coming out of the FOG; Fear, Obligation, and Guilt, of an abusive relationship. One follower asked, 'what’s on the other side of the FOG?' Great question; I use the acronym CLEAR to talk about how to recover and rebuild as you emerge from the FOG.

There is a lot of conversation about narcissism; some people express concern it’s becoming a social media fad, and that everyone is too busy arm-chair diagnosing their ex, their boss, parent, or sibling. Sure, there may be some of that, but I think the vast majority of those looking for information on narcissism, have been genuinely hurt by someone with narcissistic traits or the full blown disorder. When this happens, it’s crucial to understand as much as possible about th

Have you ever felt you were in a fog? Have you noticed that when you begin to emerge from the fog and see more clearly you realize how much you didn't see? The FOG is Fear, Obligation, and Guilt and as we look at how the FOG rolled in on and obscured our vision, we can learn and gain clarity so as not to wander into the FOG ever again.

There are certain things that happen to all of us as we age, and if you think about the primary focus of the person with NPD, and the...

Triangulation is a manipulative strategy narcissists use to control, isolate, and divide others, in order to get the focus of everyone's...

Hoovering is what a narcissist does when they decide they want you back. They act like a ‘Hoover’ vacuum cleaner and try to suck you...

Love-bombing describes all of the seductive strategies a narcissist uses on a person. These tactics are so sinister and so compelling...

There is a lot of confusion when it comes to how a narcissist feels. Many say, ‘narcissists don’t have feelings’, but this isn’t true. What IS true is that they feel completely differently than people without this disorder, and until you really understand that, you are at risk!